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Consumers' Guide to Legal Help - Although the ABA cannot help someone directly, there are many people out there who can. This site will guide you to a list of resources in your state. Most legal issues are regulated by the law in the state where you live, or where the problem occurred. Information on this site includes: Hiring, Using, and Paying a Lawyer, Finding Free Help, Helping Yourself, Legal Terms, and Getting Information. Contains a Consumers' Guide to Legal Help Legal Terms Glossary that is very complete and helpful!

Free Advice.com - Very useful site which offers TONS of information. A leading "legal advice" site for consumers and small business owners. To learn your legal rights, click a section topic and find the answers to your legal questions on FreeAdvice.com. You can also ask a question on the active law forums. Visit the State Law Center, locate a qualified attorney, or get a legal form or document.

Cornell Law Institute Legal Information Institute - contains general information on divorce. Also includes a page link to the divorce laws of the states and tables summarizing some of their salient points.

Victim Assistance Online - is an information, research and networking resource for victim assistance specialists, professionals in related disciplines and all interested in the field of victimology.

AARDVARC - A WONDERFUL resource, an Abuse, Rape and Domestic Violence Aid and Resource Collection with information on laws, courts, abusive relationships, stalking, and much much more!

AARDVARC's SAFETY PLAN - This Safety Plan, although part of a site that has already been recommended above, warrants its own link on this page - this is BY FAR the best Safety Plan I've seen anywhere and is a very worthwhile link for anyone who feels they may not be safe.

Women's Law Initiative - In this website, you will find state-by-state domestic violence legal and procedural information.

Patricia Evans' Verbal Abuse Website - A WONDERFUL site on Verbal Abuse by author Patricia Evans, tons of great information on verbal abuse, has two interactive quizzes and additional resources. Also has information on her books.

Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) is a nationwide 24-hour telephone hotline that offers support and advice to children who are being abused, caregivers who feel they might abuse a child or who have abused a child, survivors of child abuse, others who suspect child abuse, caregivers requesting help with child rearing practices, professionals who need to know how to help in child abuse situations.

Recognizing Signs of Child Abuse, from KidsHealth, is a general article about child abuse. It includes signs and symptoms, types, and what to do if you suspect or recognize child abuse.

The Impact of Abuse and Neglect on the Developing Brain, by Bruce Perry, MD, discusses the impact of abuse and neglect on the developing brain of the young child, creating lifelong response patterns of hyper-alertness and fear. Explains how early intervention can help the child to return to a state of feeling safe and in control.

Effects of Child Abuse, by Jim Hopper, gives a sophisticated approach to the complex effects of child abuse. He points out that certain risk factors combine with protective factors in a child's upbringing so that the outcome of child abuse is variable across individuals.

Child Discipline and Punishment, from IndianChild.com, is a concise article specifying the difference between child discipline (which is good to strive for) and child punishment (which can lead to abuse).

What the Research Says About Physical Punishment, from Positive Parenting, is a comprehensive article about why spanking and other physical punishments don't work well. Spanking does not "teach" anything, other than that physical violence is acceptable. Parents who do not spank their children gain better control of their children's behaviors because the children learn to control themselves, rather than wait for the outside enforcer who physically punishes all wrongs.

Discipline Techniques, Methods describes three techniques of discipline: Authoritarian, Permissive, and Democratic. This article from IndianChild.com implies that the Democratic technique is best for the child's growth into a mature adult.

A Workable Time-Out (scroll down the page to this title) describes Thomas Phelan's 1-2-3 Magic child discipline technique. This widely used and successful technique for disciplining children from 2-12 involves simply counting instances of misbehavior without emotion, explanation or discussion. The third instance (or the first, for serious problems) then requires the child to take a time-out or other appropriate non-violent repercussion. This technique is especially effective for children with AD/HD.

Following Simple Rules May Prevent Child Abuse is an article from Childhelp USA that offers some ways to try to prevent abuse of your child. Examples are: Never discipline your child when your anger is out of control; When your child tells you he or she doesn't want to be with someone, this could be a red flag. Listen to them and believe what they say; Pay attention when someone shows greater than normal interest in your child.

3 Things "Good" Parents Do That May Harm Their Child, from Childhelp USA, describes three parental actions that seem innocent, but may harm a child. These are: Tossing infants into the air and catching them; Swinging a child around, airplane style, by holding one wrist and one ankle; Violently shaking a child, either when they won't stop crying, or when they have stopped breathing due to illness or an accident.

Children's Online Privacy is a very helpful discussion and extensive resource listing about Internet safety for your children. The article discusses family safety rules for Internet use, filtering software, online marketing to children, kidnapping and sexual abuse initiated via the Internet, and specific safety tips for teens.

Child Safety on the Information Highway from Safe Kids, describes the risks posed by the internet, suggests guidelines for parents, and includes specific agreements for children to make with their parents regarding their internet use.

Shaken Baby Syndrome, from Medem and the American Academy of Pediatrics, describes the results and warns about the consequences of shaking a baby.

Shaken Baby/Shaken Impact Syndrome, from KidsHealth, covers the causes and repercussions of Shaken Baby Syndrome (SBS). This type of child abuse is 100% preventable.

Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome, from KidsHealth, describes the sad condition wherein a caregiver reports or induces a host of medical illnesses for a child. They take the child to doctors and hospitals in an effort to diagnose the illnesses, but professional medical personnel may miss the real explanation for symptoms. This kind of abuse is often fatal.

Talking to Your Child about Sexual Abuse, by KidsHealth, focuses on educating your child about sexual abuse and creating an environment of trust so that your child can confide in you if sexual abuse does occur.

Mother-daughter Sexual Abuse: Breaking the Silence clearly describes mother-daughter sexual abuse. Because of its rarity, health professionals may not recognize the signs of this kind of sexual abuse and may not report it to the proper authorities.

When Sports Aren't Fun for Kids Anymore is an easy-to-read essay on children's sports coaches who abuse children. The abuse ranges from making insulting comments to slapping.

Parenting: Dealing With Abusive Coaches is an article from Psyched Online, a magazine about enhancing sports performance through knowledge of sports psychology. This article speaks briefly about coaches' abuse of child athletes, and then offers constructive ways for parents to address the problem of athlete abuse.

Why child abuse goes unreported discusses the rift between child protective services and clergy regarding the reporting of child abuse, with the culture of forgiveness and confidentiality, as well as the desire to resolve problems internally, being common to churches. Includes examples of the variety of state laws affecting clergy in this regard.

Dealing with Bullies, from KidsHealth, lays out in simple language what a bully is and what to do about them.

Bullying and Your Child, from KidsHealth, discusses many aspects of bullying: types of bullies, why kids are bullies, what to do if your child is being bullied, and what to do if your child is a bully.

Parent Child Abduction is Child Abuse is a psychological article that presents the hypothesis that child stealing by a parent is a form of child abuse. This kind of kidnapping often occurs after a separation or divorce when the parent who does not have custody takes the children away from the other parent. Discusses in depth the psychological ramifications and results of the trauma of parental child abduction.

The National Child Abuse Hotline—Call 1-800-422-4453 or 1-800-4-A-CHILD . This number provides crisis counseling, child abuse reporting information, and information and referrals for every county in the United States. Referrals include national, state, and local agencies. The hotline is staffed 24 hours a day, 7 days a week by mental health professionals. You can also call your local Department of Social Services. Their telephone numbers are listed in the phone book in the County Government section.

A parents' guide to sibling sexual abuse —this informative guide includes links at the end to age-appropriate booklets to help kids and teens who have been abused (Also available in French, Spanish, and German).

STALKING THROUGH THE COURTS - The "Father's Right's" Movement -- How to Legally Stalk, Harass, and Intimidate Victims of Domestic Violence after a Restraining Order has been Issued, by Janet Normalvanbreucher © 1999 - a very disturbing "instruction manual" for abusive fathers/husbands/boyfriends regarding System Abuse (This document has ONLY been placed within this site to illustrate the literature and resources readily available to abusers; hopefully by reading and understanding these tactics, victims can better protect themselves from perpetrators in the future.)

LIZ LIBRARY COLLECTIONS - an EXCELLENT website to get information on System Abuse and find ways to protect yourself.

R.A.N.S. - Ritual Abuse Network Scotland - "We hope that this site will be an informative and useful resource for anyone connected with ritual abuse anywhere in the world, be they survivors, counsellors, or just a concerned friend. We are based in Dundee, Scotland but in todays global society we know we can help anyone, anywhere. For general information for support for abused youngsters please visit our sister site, Eighteen and Under."

Eighteen and Under offers free and confidential support and information to any young person, aged 18 and under, who has experienced sexual, physical or emotional abuse; a wonderful online website.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): How to Recognize a Narcissist - This is by far the best site I've found on Narcissistic Personality Disorder. If you are beeing or have been abused by someone who suffers from NPD or whom you suspect has NPD, you must visit this site.

Personality Disorders - This site contains tons of information on different personality disorders, symptoms, and treatment.

Malignant Self-Love - Narcissism Revisited - Excellent site by Dr. Sam Vaknin, a Narcissist. Contains lots of ineteresting information on Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The FAQs section has TONS of good information.

Victoria's Haven of Poetry, Prose, and Passion - Within the boundaries only of your imaginations, and upon this page, you will experience the extremes of love and hate, pain and ecstacy, solitude and comraderie, accompanied by an abundance of emotions which have possibly laid dormant within you for an eternity, or possibly rest close to the surface of your being. . . Within the confines of these pages you will find poetry, short stories, and excerpts from 'works in progress', dealing with a diversification of subjects that most, if not all, of us eventually experience on some level.

Half.com - Great discounts on books, movies, and more! Find new and used items here at large discounts off retail. An eBay company.

Stalking the Soul: Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity, by Marie-France Hirigoyen.

What Parents Need to Know About Sibling Abuse: Breaking the Cycle of Violence, by Vernon R. Wiehe

Sibling Abuse : Hidden Physical, Emotional, and Sexual Trauma, by Vernon R. Wiehe

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